Emotional Authenticity Is Your Competitive Edge

I have noticed that a vast majority of people I meet are afraid to be themselves. They say the thing they are supposed to say. They do not express their own opinions. I find it truly exhausting and very boring specially when listening to public speeches. I want to scream: give me real you, not a fake persona you are trying to build.

There is a widespread opinion that professionalism and power means neutrality. Keep emotions out of it. Stay polished. Be composed.

However, there is one skill that consistently rises above the noise - emotional authenticity.

This skill builds real trust.

It improves resilience.

It reduces second-guessing and opens the door to real conversations

This very skill can be your strategic advantage, particularly in public speaking.

What Emotional Authenticity Is

  • Clear, grounded expression

  • Honest self-awareness

  • Communicating with sincerity rather than performance

It ISN’T:

  • Oversharing

  • Unfiltered emotion

Three Ways to Practice Emotional Authenticity In Public Speaking

  1. Start your speech with a question to the audience: Should I tell the truth or...? I am sure the audience will shout "yes". Follow up and tell people the truth and not what may seem sound appropriate or perferct

  2. Substitute verbs "think, believe," with verbs "feel, sense"

  3. Look each person in the audience in the eyes for 5 seconds (it will feel long)

These small shifts create space for honesty - and honesty creates connection.

Emotional authenticity isn’t about dramatic confession or forced openness. It’s about:

  • Alignment

  • Integrity

  • Congruence

Ignoring, hiding or suppressing your emotions doesn’t make them disappear. People can sense them. Recognising them is a powerful step to freedom of self-expression, strong presence and impactful speech. Your emotions and feeling are not obstacles - they’re the most valuable sourse of information.

I finish my newsletter with one of my favourite quotes:

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” - Carl Jung

Warmly

Olga Smith

www.batcsglobal.com

255. Listening Is Wiser Than Speaking

Have you noticed that most people prefer talking rather than listening to others? Why is that? Because their own world and their own life feel more important to them than anyone else’s.

Most of us think we’re listening, but often we’re:

  •  Mentally crafting our reply

  •  Rushing to jump in with our own story 

When we do not listen, we tend to overtalk, and when we overtalk, we often:

  •  Say things we later regret

  •  Overshare without meaning to

  •  Come across as scattered or self-focused

  •  Miss valuable insights from the other side

  •  Dilute the impact of what does matter

 And here’s the core truth:

When we say little and measure our words, those words carry weight. Choosing our words carefully gives them power.

When we say too much, the essence gets lost in a sea of unnecessary noise.

 A few small changes can transform how we switch from talking too much to listening to others:

  •  Pause before responding

  •  Ask clarifying questions

  •  Focus on understanding, not replying

  •  Let silence exist for a moment—it creates clarity

 People who speak less often leave a stronger impression. Not because they’re quiet, but because they’re intentional. Their words aren’t drowned out—they stand out. 

254. Anatomy of Success That Shapes Our Path

99% of our students are already high achievers—or well on their way to becoming powerful, influential people. We help them master their speech, and during our elocution lessons, many of them inspired me to write this newsletter.

There is a powerful factor we often overlook.

It can guide us toward success… or quietly hold us back.

It speaks long before someone hears our ideas

It's sensed...

What is it?

It is our presence, or the way we look, move, and speak.

Let’s break down the signs that help us project confidence and the habits that can get in our way. We’ll explore two simple areas: physical signs and speech patterns.

Posture: Straight and Grounded

  • A straight posture doesn’t just look confident—it creates confidence.

  • Standing tall with shoulders back signals readiness, authority, and openness. A slouched posture communicates hesitation, insecurity, or withdrawal.

  • Power signal: Upright, aligned, and grounded posture

  • Failure pattern: Hunched shoulders, shifting weight, or shrinking into yourself

Pace and Rhythm: Measured, Not Rushed

  • When our movements are rushed or scattered, we signal anxiety or lack of control.

  • Measured rhythm—walking with intention and moving with purpose—creates an aura of stability.

  • Power signal: Smooth, controlled pace, no micromovement of improving hair, clothes. etc. No rush

  • Failure pattern: Fast, rushed, abrupt, jittery movements or inconsistent rhythm

Peace: The Energy of Calm Confidence

  • Power is not loud or frantic; it’s calm.

  • A peaceful presence shows emotional stability and inner security. Others read this as leadership.

  • Power signal: A calm, unhurried demeanour

  • Failure pattern: Restlessness, fidgeting, or visible tension

Eye Contact: Direct Yet Respectful

  • Looking directly at others demonstrates clarity and honesty. It shows that you are present, engaged, and unafraid.

  • Power signal: Clear, steady eye contact

  • Failure pattern: Avoiding eyes, darting glances, or looking downward

Speech patterns can amplify or diminish our authority in seconds. What are the speech patterns that signal power?

Pace: Measured and Intentional

  • Speaking too quickly can make your message feel rushed or chaotic. A measured pace helps your words land with impact. It signals thoughtfulness and control.

  • Power signal: Steady, intentional pacing

  • Failure pattern: Rapid, breathless speaking or trailing off

Pause: The Secret Ingredient of Power

  • Silence, when used appropriately, is powerful.

  • A pause gives weight to your message. It lets listeners absorb your words. It communicates certainty rather than desperation to fill space.

  • Power signal: Purposeful pauses to emphasise meaning

  • Failure pattern: Rambling, fillers, or talking nonstop

Power Is a Habit, Not a Talent. The anatomy of success lies in our presence.

You can start empowering yourself with the app 4Ps, Power, Pitch, Pace, Pause

253. Small Steps Matter

Big success does not happen overnight. It’s the result of consistent small steps practised over time. How does it work? I will explain in my examples below.

5 Second Rule

When you hear the alarm and continue staying in bed, telling yourself that another 10 minutes will not matter, you program and train your body and brain to procrastinate. But, if instead of staying in bed, you count ONE, TWO, THREE, FOUR, FIVE and get up, you train yourself to win the battle with yourself.

Cold Shower

Taking a cold shower lasts only 30 seconds, yet it feels incredibly difficult. But it's so difficult because we start thinking about how unpleasant and scary it will be.

Stop negotiating with yourself - just do it. When I started cold water swimming, the hardest part wasn’t the water itself, but overcoming the fear of it. Once I stopped thinking and simply acted, everything changed. Now it's my addiction. I love it so much because after swimming in cold water, I feel high energy.

Unpleasant Phone Call

We often delay making that one phone call we dread—maybe because we’re afraid of upsetting someone. We hope the problem will disappear if we avoid it long enough. But it never does.

In fact, the longer we wait, the worse it usually gets. Make the call as soon as possible, and you’ll feel lighter and relieved for the rest of the day.

5-minute speech exercises daily

Great speaking skills aren’t built in a single training session. They come from small, consistent daily practice.

Just 5 minutes a day of reading out loud and doing articulation exercises will make a remarkable difference over time. Start it today with the app Elocution Lessons!

Small actions create big change.

Do the little things daily, and the big results will follow.

Start now - your future self is waiting.

Warmly

Olga Smith

www.batcsglobal.com

252. Speak Like a Leader

We’ve worked with ambassadors, business leaders, and top-level professionals through our elocution courses. Our work has helped them not only eliminate bad speech habits but also develop the language of power and leadership.

This article is based on the insights and methods we’ve used to support their transformation.

Avoiding Fillers

Filler words - "um, ah, like, you know, basically" - creep in when we speak without intention. They weaken your message, distract your audience, and make even strong ideas sound uncertain.

The solution is simple: slow down and pause. A pause is more powerful than any filler. It gives you space to think and gives your audience space to absorb your message. Confident speakers use silence as a tool.

Choosing Strong Words

Leaders choose words that are precise, vivid, and purposeful. Instead of vague language, they use words that clarify, energise, and strengthen their message.

Compare:

  • “I think this might work…” vs. “This approach will give us stronger results.”

  • “Maybe we should try…” vs. “Let’s do this.”

Strong words communicate leadership, conviction, and direction. They shape how others perceive you.

Speaking with Certainty

Uncertain language creates uncertain audiences. Words such as "might, maybe, probably, sort of, perhaps, etc." dilute your authority. While there is a time for caution, habitual uncertainty can undermine your credibility.

To sound more certain:

  • Make definitive statements

  • Replace vagueness with clarity

  • Speak with intention, not hesitation

Certainty is persuasive because it signals confidence in your message.

Simple Language vs. Unnecessary Complexity

True intelligence lies in simplicity. Leaders can explain profound ideas in clear, accessible language. Overly complex or academic phrasing can alienate audiences and make your message harder to absorb. Simple language is not “dumbing down.” It is refining—expressing the essence of an idea without clutter.

When your message is simple, your audience remembers it.

Avoiding Repetition

Repetition can be useful for emphasis, but unintentional repetition weakens your impact. When you repeat the same words or phrases excessively, your message becomes dull and loses authority.

A strong communicator:

  • uses synonyms and varied phrasing

  • eliminates redundancy

  • keeps the language fresh and dynamic

Variation keeps your audience attentive and your message persuasive.

Exercises for the Language of Leadership

These exercises we offer as homework after our elocution lessons:

Record your speech for 1-2 minutes. Choose any topic you can talk about comfortably.

  1. Listen back and note every filler word. Write down the words or sounds you use: um, ah, like, you know, basically, etc.

  2. Record a second version—this time replacing fillers with pauses. Focus on slowing down and using silence intentionally.

  3. Listen again and identify any convoluted or uncertain language. Notice words like maybe, sort of, might, probably, or unnecessarily complicated phrasing. Rewrite these moments using clearer, stronger, and simpler language.

  4. Record a final, polished version. Compare it with your first recording and observe how clarity, confidence, and simplicity transform your delivery.

More resources on www.batcsglobal.com

Olga Smith

251. Did You Know “O” Can Be Pronounced Five Different Ways?

In many languages, words are pronounced in the same way they are spelt.

In English, spelling and pronunciation are not identical. English has inherited many foreign words, including those from Latin, French, Dutch, and German, and it has anglicised the pronunciation while retaining the original spelling.

In this article, I will give examples from our elocution apps of how one letter “o” represents several sounds:

  1. In words, “come, oven, front, company” it represents the / ʌ/ sound as in “duck” (Lesson 9)

  2. In words, “those, phone, no ” it is pronounced as a diphthong /əʊ/ as in “blow” (Lesson 16)

  3. In words, “corner, storage, form”, it is pronounced as a long /ɔː/ sound (Lesson 3)

  4. In words, “stop, office, box”, it is a short /ɒ/ sound (Lesson 10)

  5. In unstressed syllables, it is pronounced as schwa /ə/, as in “the”. I highlighted the schwa: “confirm, London, potatoes” (Lesson 6)

You noticed that I mentioned lesson numbers from our elocution apps in brackets. This is to help you practise these sounds.

British English

American English

When using the apps, avoid looking at the spelling the first time you practise a sound. This helps you overcome confusion caused by English spelling and focus purely on pronunciation. Listen carefully and repeat the sound in words, phrases, and verses.

There are no fixed rules for when a particular sound is used. However, by working with our elocution apps, you’ll start to notice pronunciation patterns and have plenty of opportunities to practise them.

Subscribe to our newsletter and visit www.batcsglobal.com to receive daily pronunciation tips.

Warmly

Olga Smith

250. Be Unstoppable: Balancing Your Inner Cycles to Build Momentum

We all go through different stages in life, shifting from one state of being to another, like the ebb and flow of tides.

🔥 The Drive State: When Momentum Takes Over

There are moments when we feel driven — energised, aligned, and unstoppable. In these phases, we create, build, solve, lead, and accomplish more than we imagined. It feels as if the world opens for us. But high drive without self-awareness eventually leads to one thing: burnout.

🌙 The Reflective State: When Doubt Meets Insight

Then come the melancholic, pensive seasons. Here, we slow down, question, reflect, and sometimes doubt ourselves. These periods can feel uncomfortable, yet they often reveal deeper truths:

  • What are you doing?

  • Why are you doing it?

  • Does it still align with who you’re becoming?

Reflection is very powerful — unless you stay there too long.

😴 The Resting State: When Your Mind and Body Reset

And then there are the tired seasons — essential moments of restoration. We sleep, eat, stretch, breathe, and reconnect with our humanity. Rest isn’t a pause from productivity.

The Real Question: What’s Your Ratio?

We all cycle through drive, reflection, and rest — but in different amounts.

  • Some people live in drive mode and eventually burn out.

  • Some stay in reflection and never take action.

  • Some rest so often that their momentum never forms.

There’s no universal formula. But there is awareness — and that changes everything.

🎯 An Example From My Own Life

Take speech mastery, for example. Once, I practised my English speech for hours every day. My articulation was sharp. My pronunciation was clear. My confidence was rising. Then I stopped completely (I was travelling to Italy and was learning to speak Italian). My English speech became sloppy — far from where I wanted to be. Now I practice just 20 minutes a day, and the improvement is remarkable. My articulation is returning. My pronunciation is strengthening. Consistency beats intensity - every time.

Know Yourself

Here’s what I’ve learned about myself:

  • My mind moves fast and seeks quick, simple solutions so I can relax.

  • When I feel driven, I can (figuratively) move mountains.

  • But I also tend to reflect too long — sometimes to the point where I feel sick, lose progress, and then rush to catch up, causing mistakes.

This is my cycle. But I’m choosing to break it — and create a new one.

✅ My 3-Step Formula to Stay Unstoppable

These simple habits have changed everything for me:

1. I allocate dedicated time for work, rest, and reflection.

Structure reduces emotional decision-making. I also know that for me, the best time to reflect is very early am or late pm. Work between 8 am and 1 pm. Rest between 4 pm-8 pm.

2. I set alarms to stop myself from going too far in any direction.

Balance needs boundaries. For me, this is particularly useful to limit my reflection and rest time.

3. I break tasks into baby steps and assign time to each one.

Small steps act like pressing on a gas pedal in a car; they make me move and build momentum.

Being unstoppable isn’t about always being in “go mode.” It’s about mastering the flow between drive, reflection, and rest — with awareness, intention, and compassion. When you learn your patterns and build consistency into your days, something powerful happens:

You don’t just make progress. You become unstoppable.

Warmly

Olga Smith

www.batcsglobal.com

249. One Letter Pronounced in Five Sounds

In many languages, words are pronounced in the same way they are spelt.

In English, spelling and pronunciation are not identical. English has inherited many foreign words, including those from Latin, French, Dutch, and German, and it has anglicised the pronunciation while retaining the original spelling.

In this article, I will give examples from our elocution apps of how one letter “o” represents several sounds:

  1. In words, “come, oven, front, company” it represents the / ʌ/ sound as in “duck” (Lesson 9)

  2. In words, “those, phone, no ” it is pronounced as a diphthong /əʊ/ as in “blow” (Lesson 16)

  3. In words, “corner, storage, form” it is pronounced as a long /ɔː/ sound (Lesson 3)

  4. In words, “stop, office, box” it is a short /ɒ/ sound (Lesson 10)

  5. In unstressed syllables, it is pronounced as schwa /ə/, as in “the”. I highlighted the schwa: “confirm, London, potatoes” (Lesson 6)

You noticed that I mentioned lesson numbers from our elocution apps in brackets. This is to help you practise these sounds.

British English

American English

When using the apps, avoid looking at the spelling the first time you practise a sound. This helps you overcome confusion caused by English spelling and focus purely on pronunciation. Listen carefully and repeat the sound in words, phrases, and verses. 

There are no fixed rules for when a particular sound is used. However, by working with our elocution apps, you’ll start to notice pronunciation patterns and have plenty of opportunities to practise them.

Subscribe to our newsletter and visit www.batcsglobal.com to receive daily pronunciation tips.

248. Your Personal Language Style

We all have our own personal style — a voice shaped by the environment we grew up in. The words we choose, the rhythm of our sentences, even the phrases we repeat without thinking - they all carry traces of our background, experiences, and the people who’ve influenced us.

Maybe you picked up a calm, measured tone from a parent who spoke thoughtfully. Or perhaps your speech has the warmth and colour of a lively neighbourhood where stories were traded like treasures. Over time, these influences blend into a style that’s uniquely yours - your linguistic fingerprint.

What’s fascinating is that our style continues to evolve. New environments, social circles, and technologies reshape how we speak and write. The way you text a friend today might be miles apart from how you wrote letters ten years ago — and that’s perfectly natural. Language is alive, and so are we.

Our personal style isn’t just about grammar or vocabulary; it’s about identity. It tells the world who we are, where we’ve been, and how we see things. Recognising and refining your style doesn’t mean losing authenticity - it means understanding your voice and using it with purpose.

So as you read this week’s edition, take a moment to reflect:

What’s your style saying about you?  

We offer a personalised speech analysis designed to help you discover and refine your unique communication style.

 Through this in-depth analysis, you will:

  •  Gain a clear understanding of your personal language style

  •  Identify your strengths and areas for growth

  •  Receive detailed, actionable recommendations to enhance your speech and voice

 To book your session, email oriana_r@hotmail.com or text +447971246806

Warmly

Olga Smith

www.batcsglobal.com

247. Fortune Favours The Brave

The Ancient Truth That Still Defines Modern Success. “Fortune favours the brave” — a timeless proverb that has echoed through centuries, from Roman battlefields to Silicon Valley boardrooms. But what does it really mean in today’s world of AI disruption, global uncertainty, and rapid change?

At its core, this phrase reminds us that opportunity rarely visits those who play it safe. It seeks the doers — the ones willing to step into discomfort, take intelligent risks, and act with conviction even when outcomes are uncertain.

The Courage to Act in Uncertainty

We often romanticise bravery as a grand gesture — starting a company, quitting a job, or launching a bold product. But true bravery is quieter. It’s:

  • Speaking up in a meeting or in public

  • Admitting you don’t know something and choosing to learn.

  • Choosing innovation over imitation.

Each small act of courage compounds over time — and that’s where fortune begins to turn in your favour.

The New Definition of “Fortune”

In the past, “fortune” was material wealth, fame, or conquest.

Today, it’s broader:

  • Fortune is growth.

  • Fortune is impact.

  • Fortune is fulfilment.

The brave are not always the loudest. They’re often the most consistent — showing up, iterating, learning from failure, and daring to move forward when others freeze.

In a world changing faster than ever, playing it safe is now the riskiest move. The next innovation, opportunity, or breakthrough won’t come from certainty — it will come from someone willing to act despite the unknown.

So, the question isn’t whether fortune favours the brave.

It’s whether you’re brave enough to meet it halfway.

One of my billionaire friends once said: God gives huge wealth for two human qualities: patience and bravery. The more I think about this saying, the more I believe it's true.

246. Don't Overthink!

Do you ever find yourself stuck in small decisions — what to wear, what to start first, what to buy?

It’s strange how something so simple can suddenly feel heavy.

We live in a time of endless options, and while that can be a gift, it also brings a quiet kind of pressure — the sense that there must be a right choice waiting to be figured out.

 But often, the more we think, the further we drift from clarity.

 Sometimes the simplest way forward isn’t to analyse — it’s to feel.

We live in a world that rewards logic and over-analysis, but sometimes the wisest answers don’t come from thinking harder — they come from feeling deeper.

 Your body is constantly whispering to you:

  • a tightening in the chest when something feels off

  • a lightness in your step when something excites you

  • a calm in your belly when something is right

 That’s your intuition — your inner compass.

When you stop fighting the current and start flowing with it, something magical happens:

  • Decisions become easier.

  • Creativity feels natural

  • Life feels less like a checklist and more like a dance.

 This week, try this simple shift:

  • When your mind starts spinning, pause and take a deep breath

  •  Notice how your body feels about the situation — not what your mind thinks

  •  Then, trust that signal

 Flow isn’t about doing nothing — it’s about doing what feels aligned.

 So, let go of the overthinking.

Tune in.

Trust yourself.

And let life move through you.

Warmly

Olga Smith

www.batcsglobal.com

245. Accent Reduction Lesson

This article is a gift to all our subscribers, where I share a unique accent reduction methodology. I will demonstrate it in a 45-minute lesson.

  1. Start with warm-up exercises for the lips, jaw and tongue. You can find them in the apps Get Rid of your Accent (British English) or in American Accent App (American English). - 3 minutes

  2. The second stage is articulation exercises to make English consonants crisp - 5 minutes. Bello is an example from our apps:
    Repeat 3 times, keeping consonants clear and crisp. 

    pt                       pt                    pt                    pt

    kt                        kt                     kt                     kt

    ptkt                    ptkt                 ptkt                 ptkt

     

    bd                       bd                    bd                    bd

    gd                       gd                    gd                    gd

    bdgd                  bdgd               bdgd               bdgd

  3. Practise one sound in words, sentences and verses, repeat each exercise 3 times -20 minutes

  4. The next stage of the lessons - incorporating the target sound and crisp consonants in your mini-speech from your everyday life - 10 minutes.
    For example, if I were practising the /æ/ as in “back” sound, I would highlight it in all words:
    Today, I am travelling back to London from Selsey. It will take me two hours to get home. Traffic should be ok. I plan to manage on time to see my handyman.

  5. Finally, read a few sentences out loud - 3 times, noting the target sound and consonants.

    It is important to drink water and rest between exercises. Use the mirror to check the correct position of your lips and jaw.

    Warmly

    Olga Smith

    www.batcsglobal.com

244. How Long Does It Take to Get Rid of an Accent?

This is one of the most common questions we hear from people starting our elocution lessons.

The answer depends on two main factors:

 1. Your ear for language – how well you can hear and imitate sounds.

2. Your commitment – whether you can dedicate 15–45 minutes a day to focused practice.

People with a naturally good ear often make faster progress. However, the second factor is far more important. Accent reduction is not just about listening — it’s about retraining your speech organs (your tongue, lips, and jaw) to produce the correct English sounds consistently.

Like any physical skill, it takes regular, mindful practice. The more you train, the faster your muscles and mind adapt — and the sooner you’ll sound clear, confident, and natural.

You can start your practice today with our apps:

Get Rid of your Accent (British English, RP)

American Accent App (American English)

Warmly

Olga Smith

www.batcsglobal.com

243. Don’t Scatter Your Forces

In this week’s reflection, I’d like to continue my Energy Management series.

What I’ve noticed is how easy it is, in today’s world, to scatter our energy on endless small talks, messages, and trying to please others to appear “nice” or agreeable.

Instead of focusing on our goals, we often gift our attention to things that don’t truly matter. The result? Lost energy, wasted time, and a blurred sense of direction. It’s better to have a nap than waste energy.

Our energy is our life force — the fuel that powers creativity, clarity, and meaningful action.

What if, instead of doing more, we started choosing more carefully?

What if we said “no” to the activities and people that quietly drain us — and “yes” only to what nourishes and inspires us?

I live in London, and there are always invitations to talk, network, or “catch up.” Before agreeing, I pause and ask myself:

  • Does this meeting move me closer to something meaningful?

  • Does this conversation energise me or drain me?

Protecting our energy is not selfish - it’s essential. Keep your eyes on your prize - your goals and important relations.

Warmly

Olga Smith

www.batcsglobal.com

242. The Question That Can Change Everything

“What’s the point? I don’t see the meaning of my actions. It’s not worth it.”

Do these thoughts sound familiar?

The truth is, many intelligent, capable people quietly struggle with this question. It’s not a lack of ability -it’s a loss of meaning. You can do things, but an inner voice whispers, “Why bother?” That quiet dialogue drains motivation until even simple actions start to feel pointless.

This often happens when we lose connection — to our goals, to a sense of purpose, or even to our own energy. We move through the day uninspired, disengaged, and uncertain why our efforts matter.

But there’s a gentle way out. Instead of asking, “What’s the point?”, ask a different question:

“What can this teach me?”

Even small experiences can become lessons. For example: 

  •  Mastering your speech teaches you clarity, confidence, and how to express your ideas with impact.

  •  Working on your pronunciation trains your ear to listen better — a skill that improves all communication.

  •  Speaking in public helps you manage stress, stay calm under pressure, and connect with others authentically.

  •  Repeating the same exercise builds patience, focus, and discipline — qualities that translate far beyond language learning.

 The point isn’t perfection — it’s growth.

The point is to live in a way that keeps your spirit awake — to stay curious, to learn, and to grow through everything you do.

Warmly,

Olga Smith

www.batcsglobal.com

241. The Power of Planning

As the saying goes, “Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.”

In the past, I was a chronic procrastinator. I’d delay, hesitate, and overthink. Then, when I was sick and tired of procrastinating, I jumped into doing things without a plan. The result? Mistakes, repetition, and wasted time. I’d redo the same work over and over again, and the feeling of frustration with myself made my blood boil.

With time, I have developed a habit of planning for success and luck. I realised that planning isn’t just about organisation - it’s the difference between reacting to life and creating it.

What I do first is I imagine the best possible outcome, and then I map the steps to make it happen. I divide my planning into three blocks:

  1. Reasourse
    What resources do I need? How can I get them?

  2. Time
    How many days, months or years will it take? At what time of the day will it be done best?

  3. Skills
    Do I have the necessary skills? Do I need training? Do I have to hire help?

Planning made me believe that I can achieve anything I want if I put my mind to it.

Yours

Olga Smith

240. Be Your Own Plastic Surgeon

This week’s reflections made me think deeply about beauty.

Why do all children look beautiful? Because they’re full of energy - their faces radiate joy, love, and curiosity.

Our facial expression is the most important part of beauty.

When we express frustration, anger, or boredom, our faces often become less attractive. Over time, repeating these emotions etches expression lines - and this is how many people lose their natural radiance with age.

Plastic surgeons make fortunes promising “youthful beauty,” but they rarely mention the real consequences:

·       It disrupts blood circulation, making the face look tired and lifeless

·       It doesn’t erase the emotional patterns that age us from within

You can become your own plastic surgeon by changing your thoughts, emotions, and energy.

The tools are simple and free:

·       Make relaxation exercises part of your daily routine

·       Always have a meaningful goal to strive for — purpose lights up your face

·       Surround yourself with joy, kindness, and nature

When you nurture peace and happiness inside, it naturally reflects on the outside.

Yours

Olga Smith

239. What Keeps You Energised Throughout the Day?

In this week’s reflection, I’m sharing the simple things that truly recharge me and keep my energy flowing throughout the day.

For me, it starts with a good night’s sleep, a few little naps when I need them, and then my favourite trio:

  • Sun

  • Water

  • Earth

After I wake up, I always look for sunlight. I find a cosy spot in the house or garden where I can sit in direct sun and enjoy my breakfast. Ideally, I’d love to spend around three hours in the sun - it fills me with warmth, happiness, and calm energy.

Then comes water. I love starting my day with a shower or bath, and if I can, I’ll swim in the sea or the pool later on. Every time my body connects with water, I feel lighter, refreshed, and alive again.

And finally, Earth. I love walking barefoot on the ground, lying down on the grass, or being surrounded by flower pots that carry that rich, grounding scent of soil. It’s my way of feeling centred and connected to nature.

These simple rituals keep me energised and balanced throughout the day.

I’d love to hear from you — what keeps your energy flowing?

Yours

Olga Smith

238. Freedom or Fear

Fear is an emotion deeply connected to our survival instinct. It keeps us alive in the face of danger—it is natural to feel scared when confronted with a bear in the woods, when swimming against massive ocean waves, or when a hurricane is approaching. In these moments, fear sharpens our senses and prepares us to act.

But fear is not only a survival tool. It is also one of the most powerful tools of control.

Politicians use fear to control voters’ decisions and behaviour, painting pictures of threats and dangers that they claim only they can prevent.

Advertisers use fear in campaigns to control buying decisions—“without this product, you will not be safe, attractive, or successful.”

Parents sometimes use fear to control their children’s behaviour—threatening punishment, rejection, or shame.

Sadly, fear shows up in our closest relationships. My most recent example: just yesterday, a woman who claimed to be my friend told me that if I did not stop questioning her opinion, I would lose her as a friend. Her message wasn’t about dialogue—it was about control. It was an attempt to use fear of loss to silence me. I immediately blocked her because I cannot stand when others attempt to dominate me.

The problem for most people is that they trust others more than themselves. Whilst the best defence against manipulation is self-trust.

How can we develop self-trust? Here is the answer:

  • Questioning: Who is the beneficiary? What’s in it for me?

  • Reflecting:

  • Standing firm in our values

So what can we do when fear is used against us? Here are some practices:

  1. Notice the Threat Behind the Words

  2. Pause Before Reacting

  3. Separate real risk from imagined risk

Red Flags

A healthy choice comes from clarity, not coercion. If you feel cornered, silenced, shamed or “guilted” into action, it is most likely a manipulation by fear.

Fear should protect our lives, not control our choices. When we learn to recognise the difference, we reclaim our freedom.

237. Hips Don't Lie

The phrase “hips don’t lie” ultimately points us back to authenticity.

People can force a smile.

They can rehearse their lines.

But their bodies will always reveal the truth.

Why? Because the body is directly linked to the subconscious mind. While the conscious mind carefully edits speech and expression, the subconscious leaks out through posture, breath, gestures, and movement.

The hips, the shoulders, the eyes—they all carry traces of emotions we may not even be aware of. Stress, fear, attraction, joy, insecurity—these states live in the body long before they reach the tongue.

That is why the body is our most honest storyteller. It whispers the truths the conscious mind tries to hide, revealing what is really happening beneath the surface.

That’s why, when we try to understand people’s true attitudes, we should listen not only to their words but to their bodies.

A body speaks softly but honestly. The way someone sits, the way they breathe, the way they look at you or linger—all of these gestures are quiet confessions of the soul.

Ask yourself gently: What does their body tell me? And just as important - what does my own body say in response?

Sometimes, before our mind has time to form a thought, our body already knows. We feel comfort or unease, warmth or distance. This is not a coincidence—it is our subconscious, the deep language of connection that exists beneath words.

When we learn to notice this silent dialogue—between their body and ours—we enter into a more authentic way of relating. We begin to see that truth is not only spoken; it is carried in the rhythm of movement, in the breath between words, in the subtle dance of presence.

The body never lies—it simply speaks the truths the heart already knows.